How to deal with and release anger?

All love is present here, the love of inquiring into an important topic, that of lingering feelings of anger that now haunt and torment you.

For anger indeed is a passing storm, a breeze that comes up suddenly, reveals its message, then blows away. In your case we have anger that is hanging on far longer than is comfortable, an anger that lingers, dominates, fouls the mind and fouls the day, fouls the perception.

For anger must be released, acknowledged then released.

Many hold onto anger because it props up their egos - they feel that anger is their most important personal tool, not having enough trust in themselves to change situations when they are no longer appropriate. Rather than dealing with their feelings of inadequacy, they hold anger as the sine qua non or most essential aspect of their life.

For others anger is just a momentary storm.


Is anger justified?

Anger is an emotion of the moment, and hopefully one doesn't plan incidences of anger. Deal with it in the moment, acknowledge it, see its message and meaning for yourself, and in the next moment let it go.

Treat not anger as something to nourish, to cherish, to keep active and alive in your life. Anger is not a weapon, anger is a response. Thus when it is seen in the moment, acknowledged in the moment, and let go, then it is healthy.

Anger comes unheralded oftentimes, and must be dealt with as an Is. Anger simply is.


Does revenge have value?

What indeed is revenge - an eye for an eye, a stone for a thrown stone?

Revenge is nothing and goes nowhere and is not a strategy of life whatsoever. Revenge represents the futility of a life blindly followed, not lived.

Revenge is utter hopelessness, utter futility, utter surrender to worthlessness and the acceptance of a lack of personal power, lack of power over self, and over life, lack of power over the simple ability to love.

Revenge is living without love.

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