Is it harmful to examine psychological problems stemming from childhood? Is it a temptation to blame your parents and move away from an adult attitude towards life and self?

To love and want to understand your parents is indeed admirable. Yet to see the injuries and impairment in your life caused by a lack of proper care and understanding while growing up is also important, especially as you attempt to care for and understand self and others during your life.

To blame your parents for your faults is indeed a superficial and harmful place to stop.

But to see that your parents were human, as you are; flawed, as you are; and that their flaws and shadow sides interfered with and distorted your life is indeed an important insight, and one that hopefully will motivate you to take greater care in dealing with other people.

That insight will also motivate you to continually look within and eliminate the sources of fear and hesitancy, self-dislike and self deception that exist within your soul.

Love of one's parents is always possible for love is the answer, the healing force in all life.


What is the relationship between the psychological and the spiritual?

The psychological is the legacy of self, the imprint of early experiences on the mind and the formation of attitudes about those experiences through personal judgments.

The spiritual is the legacy of the soul, a legacy of timelessness, of unconditional love, of the full acceptance of every condition, a legacy gained from your existences in the spiritual realms and communication therewith.

Thus the relationship between the psychological and spiritual is one of perspective, of wanting to choose the correct interpretation of events and of self, whether an interpretation grounded in the fear of time and density, or one energized by a sense of timelessness, unconditional love, and faith in larger realities.

For even in the psychological realm one is dealing with faith in larger realities: faith in the operation of a society, faith in one's expectations towards people and towards self. Indeed expectations are the larger reality of the psychological realm, whereas unconditional love is the larger reality of the spiritual.

The psychological attempts to protect self, to shield the personality from hurt, vulnerability, and bad fortune, whereas the spiritual attempts to accept and understand all circumstances.

The psychological is healthy when the self is accepted and understood, and the spiritual is healthy when the self is unconditionally loved and understood. Both meet when self is loved, accepted and understood, thus both pivot on the same hinge, on loving attitudes towards self, and on self as the projector of love.

Indeed a positive, expanding, accepting self is the centerpiece, the doorway through which God and humankind meet and co-create together.

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